If done with your whole self present, then real transformation can happen. It can stir up a lot of emotions.
Ceremonies can be done in a number of ways. Of course it can be done for a lot of different purposes, love, celebration, to let go, to call in, to relax, to connect etc etc.
It can also be done differently in different traditions! Some find it absolutely essential to cast a circle, others don't. Some want a lot of things for their magic like oils, crystals, different coloured candles etc, and again, others don't.
Creating powerful ceremonies takes practice. But each time you do one you will learn more and you will get better at sensing the energies. So, do you want to start?
Let me tell you how I do it!
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It is very important to set the intention for what I want to do. That means deciding why I am doing the ceremony.
I might want to connect to a certain Goddess or energy. I may want to let go of things like emotions, habits or even emotionally toxic people.
The ceremony can also be about calling in something like abundance or love. It can be for self love. It can be to honour myself or someone else, or in honour of my Sisters!
One thing that is important to me is that the ceremony is about me. I never try to change someone else or interfere with someone else´s life in my ceremonies. I know other witches sometimes do spells like that, but I don't.
Before I start I set up my altar. Sometimes I want to add things, get another set of oracle cards or get a specific crystal. Sometimes I sit in another spot or do the ceremony outside! Whatever I do, I make sure I have everything I need right there. Paper, a pen, matches…
To decide what I need and want I look at what my intention is. Often I use things that are important to me on my spiritual journey. Like the amethyst egg I was given when I dedicated as a Priestess of Avalon after three years of training. Another thing that is always with me is my rock that my Sister Kirsten brought me from Canada when we met for the second time in Glastonbury.
Then I might prepare some incense or sage to burn. Burning sage is very good for cleansing the space and even ourselves. I might do a whole post on smudging later on!
I like to use different oracle cards, and I intuitively choose the deck every time. I use the cards for guidance to see if there is anything specific I need to focus on.
You can decorate the altar with items from nature, twigs, rocks, berries, feathers, whatever you want. Bringing items in from nature brings energy in from nature. It can help us to connect, and it helps keep the energies of the altar alive and vibrant.
Apart from making sure you are not disturbed, being present in the here and now is vital.
I can not emphasise that enough.
If we are not present we might as well not do the ceremony. That might sound harsh, but I think it is true.
We are talking about working with energies, and therefore it is vital that we are in connection with our own energy, our own essence, if we are to be able to connect with the Divine Feminine, the energies of nature or the season.
How do we do this? By grounding and centering.
This can be done in many different ways. By smudging, which is cleansing yourself with sage or some other incense. By breathing. Movement, like dancing or yoga.
I usually use a combination, but I always use breathing. Just breathing calmly and mindfully for a minute or two, or longer, depending on how you are feeling.
When you get used to centering and grounding you will recognise the sensation in your body when you are present. For me it feels like landing in my body, like my soul relaxes and spreads out in my whole self and beyond. You will know how it feels for you.
At the start of the ceremony I call in the Goddess or aspects of the Goddess I want to invite. In my training we always called in the Goddesses from all eight directions, and then The Lady of Avalon in the centre. Other traditions call in four directions, plus above and below. There are many ways of doing it.
Nowadays I usually call in The Lady of Avalon and the Goddess of the season. I will share more about the different directions and Goddesses of the seasons another time.
When I call Her in I speak to Her. I invite Her into my sacred space. With my inner eye I see Her, I see Her coming towards me, which helps me feel Her specific energies.
Working with a specific Goddess for a long time makes us familiar with them and we get to know what their presence feels like. There are many books which gives you long sections on what to say when, but I find it works best if the words come from our hearts. Don't worry if you feel your words are not “poetic” enough! Normal down-to-earth words are the best!
I don't cast a circle of protection because I feel that the presence of Goddess, the presence of She is enough protection for me. This is true for me, but I do not have any problems with other witches who feel the need to cast a circle. We all work in different ways.
When I have called Goddess in I start the specific work I created the ceremony for.
The middle bit
Here is where we do what we decided the ceremony was for.
Sometimes it might be just communing with Goddess, being in Her presence.
It can be clearing and letting go.
It can be calling in abundance.
It can be drawing in the power of the moon.
It can be connecting with the energies of the season.
It can be divination, asking a question and waiting for an answer. Oracle cards, Tarot cards, a pendulum or meditation can be used for this.
Whatever your intention was, this is where you do your work.
Normally my way of working is to speak to Goddess, like a prayer. I speak from my heart and soul and offer it up to Her to transform or empower.
If I am letting things go I write them down on paper and burn. I can write prayers and wishes in my journal. I can charge crystals with a specific intention by holding them and focusing on what I want, like courage, self-love, or to open up more to Goddess.
I usually use an oracle card deck and ask for guidance, and then pull a card, and writing down which one I got so that I can go back to that later.
Sometimes I ask for guidance for the coming day, for the coming lunar cycle, for a particular problem. It can be general or specific. I find it helpful to write down which cards I get and their meaning and also my own thoughts about them and what the message means for me.
When you feel that you have done your work, then it is time to end the ceremony. Make sure you have said everything you want to say and feel satisfied.
Now it is time to give thanks for what you have experienced, and it is time to give thanks to Goddess. In your own words, say thank you to whoever you called in. I thank Goddess for Her presence and ask Her to walk with me and be with me, in my heart, soul and body. You do not need book to tell you what to say. Whatever words are in your heart, that is all that is needed.
You may wish to sit for a minute afterwards and just let the experience sink in.
Be aware that feelings can arise after a ceremony.
Ceremonies are real and powerful!
They can be very transformative.
So be gentle with yourself.
Write about what comes up for you in your journal, or speak to someone who will listen. Of course, if something becomes to difficult contact your doctor or a professional therapist.
And that is it.
I hope this made sense to you, and that if you felt unsure of how to create a ceremony that you now feel more confident! And if you already
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With love and blessings, Elin
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